This week, we have an interesting, passionate and honest writer as a guest for the author interview slot. I enjoyed interviewing him and I am now following him on social media. Please welcome author Gregor Reti as we are about to read more about him and his book.
Gregor had an explosive life. At the age of 13 he died, met God, and lost all death-related fears. Gregor describes it as “a starting point that allowed me to explore life to the fullest, leading me to meet my Soulmate, experience creative sexuality, and meet a personalized form of the Universe.”
Born from Hungarian immigrant parents, Gregor grew up in Germany where he modeled and worked in the music business that brought him to Los Angeles. The book “Sex, Ego and Love” exposes the essential nature of courage by following his radically honest journey through life, after-life, bisexuality, transgenderism, soulmateship, celibacy, all punctuated with deeply spiritual reflections. The lessons he shares reveal a wise framework for liberating oneself from the claws of fear and embracing personal growth using self-awareness, authentic living, and self-love. Inspired by his spicy erotica, Gregor uses his writing to fight for the ideal of truth while battling hypocrisy. “I wish I could prove faster how tightly courage and happiness are intertwined. We can only thrive in a radically honest environment”. His book, SEX, EGO AND LOVE, shows the devastating power of fear and how it isolates and cripples us, but also reveals a profound path to personal liberation.
How do you work through self-doubts and fear when writing?
Ha, exactly that’s the main subject of this book. We all have the same issues when it comes to the power-tools of our egos. This book helps the reader to become self-aware, to conquer doubts, hence gain more confidence and sex appeal. The book also covers shame, insecurity, real-life erotica, sexual fantasies, ego, and love.
What do you think makes a good story?
I believe in radical truth, real life experiences, when shame is conquered and everything is exposed. We are all humans and being vulnerable is not a weakness but something darn sexy. Look at James Dean for example. He was emotionally torn and cried in his movie roles. How sexy was he?
What’s the most memorable thing said by a reader about your work?
This book helped a stepmother to conquer her depression. While reading this book she realized that it was her ego that fed her self-doubt that held her hostage for many years. She managed to break out of this horrific cycle.
Do you have anything specific you’d like to tell the readers?
Please share yourself, not only with your lover, but with every friend and family member. You are setting an example for others to follow. Let’s cut the chains of insecurity, fear and shame or we run into isolation, sometimes even depression.
What scares you the most?
People who do not dare to live their lives fully. That’s either because they want to remain as victims or because they manipulate themselves to avoid any changes. All changes are important and good, and the more changes we have the more we become aware. This process develops courage so we can live and enjoy life fully.
What makes you happiest?
People stepping out of their comfort zones, daring to be radically honest and different. That creates more peaceful, happier and sexier people compared to the ones who force themselves to conform.
Why do you write?
I would like to set an example to show what kind of liberation is achievable if one opens up to his vulnerabilities and sexual secrets. I also write about my death, my soulmate, reincarnation, bisexuality, transgenderism, orgies, celibacy, threesomes… All of these are chapters of my life and now they transformed into chapters of this book, representing a powerful message.
Have you always enjoyed writing?
No, and I still don’t do, even though my storytelling supposed to be fascinating. I think this feedback is mainly based on the truth that is shared.
What motivates you to write?
I love to reach people who do not get on Youtube and TEDtalks. I have some of my lectures on Youtube but I haven’t managed to get on TEDtalks yet, but it will happen one day.
What are you most proud of in your personal life?
At the age of 13 I died. Heaven was absolutely heavenly. There I was given the free will to decide what shall happen with me. I opted to come back based on my ambition to help this world. This finally comes true with this book. I hold free of charge lectures and workshops, some of them are on Youtube. I also set up a free online forum where people can express themselves freely and learn from each other: www.sexandego.love As humans we need honest reference points especially when it comes to our sexuality.
What do you hope your obituary will say about you?
I honestly do not care. I was here and will be back thousands of more times. These are too many obituaries to keep track of.
Location and life experiences can really influence writing, tell us where you grew up and where you live now?
I lived in Germany, Austria, Greece, Hungary, and spent the past 30 years in Los Angeles. Additionally, I had offices in Paris, London and New York, all of that had an imprint on me. In my childhood I was brutally beaten hundreds of times. Today I realize how uniquely this formed me to be who I am today. So yes, our individual realities that we take as the absolute application for everybody, represents only a 1/7 billionth fraction of what other realities are out there. Realities are individual interpretations and identifications of life experiences. This concept helped me a great deal to accept others and myself.
What is hardest – getting published, writing or marketing?
All of the above. Maybe the hardest thing is to get over my insecurities, which manifest in complacency. All of us can reach most of our goals after we get over our childhood traumas and learn to accept and believe in ourselves.
What marketing works for you?
I haven’t figured it out yet. If you have ideas, please contact me.
What other jobs have you had in your life?
I was a record company executive, back when music was sold on CDs and vinyls. I was also a sex worker, a captain for sailing yachts, a telephone marketer, life insurance sales person (the ones knocking from door to door), limousine driver, marketing executive for multi national real estate developers, and a marketing manager for a Korean car manufacturer. I have strong ADHD that comes with bad memory, so I was not able to secure a steady career for myself. My dysfunction disabled me to study even though I wanted to. But again, these factors forced me to become the liberated and fulfilled person that I reached becoming today.
If you could study any subject at university what would you pick?
Anthropology and Psychology.
Tell us about your family?
I had a bad divorce in 2005. My two sons suffered tremendously. Now they don’t speak to me. I needed to learn to accept my and their fates. I would love to be there for them, but they don’t allow me to.
Every writer has their own idea of what a successful career in writing is, what does success in writing look like to you?
Eventually I will reach 300,000 individuals readers, regardless if they pay for the book or not. I know they will contemplate about the content and that will be my greatest success to influence each reader at a time.
If you could have a dinner party and invite anyone dead or alive, who would you ask?
Hunter S. Thompson, Buddha, Mick Jagger, Dalai Lama, Christopher Walken, Osho, Jimmy Hendrix, Jesus Christ, Tiesto, Steve Jobs, Chris Farley, Jean Paul Satre and some kick ass readers of this book.
What do you hope people will take away from your writing? How will your words make them feel?
Humanity’s progress was powered by provocation and rebellion. My book is not a “cozy read.” It provokes, yet its raw honesty and erotica will entertain the reader. It will make them evaluate their lives and values. This book’s mission is not to make money or to gain respect, but to bring each reader closer to their authentic self, to make them realize that there is no need to conform, to feel oppressed and oppress others. Look how many women are mistreated by men, men who are cowards to liberate themselves from their social or religious angst. Look at all the sex trafficking in this world based on societies’ sexual hypocrisy. This book spells out the influence of the collective Ego.
Do you have links that you’d like to share for others to read?
Visit our new discussion Forums www.sexandego.love
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